It’s time to tell my kids I’m trans and I could use some help.
I’ve been on hormones for almost a year and I’m looking at social transition in the Spring or Summer, and my wife and I are thinking of telling them over this Winter break so they have some time to digest it.
They’re 5 and 8, so I need to keep it fairly basic. My concise message is this:
I love you, and I will always love you. I’m going to be changing next year, and I want you to know that no matter how I change, I will love you.
I’m going to change from being a boy to being a girl. I’ll wear girl clothes and makeup and look more and more like a girl next year.
I’m changing to be happier. I’ve always thought that I would be happier as a girl, so that’s what I’m going to do.
I’ll still be your parent and I’m not going anywhere. I will be here to take care of you and love you.
Are there any other salient points you think I should mention? I don’t want to overload them and expect that there will be future conversations about things like my new name, how to talk to other people about it, etc. I also expect that they’ll have some questions during/after this.
Any suggestions, stories, or pointers to resources would be most appreciated!