Ny name is Heather. I’m living my life more and more as the woman I’ve always wanted to be. I’m just me when I’m out and about either by myself or with my kids.
But when I’m with my kids, ages 6 and 9, I’m, “Dad, dad, dad!” everywhere we go.
I’ve talked to them about what to call me, asking them what they’d like to call me but nothing super-clear has yet to emerge. They have used my name, but never when we’re out. So invariably, no matter how well I’m being me and having people see me as me when I’m out with them, they out me. Over and over and over and over.
People around me look, then stare, then their eyes go wide or narrow. Some have the light bulb go off while others laugh, sometimes elbowing their companions.
I’ve talked to them both about this, but there’s been no change over several months and they keep doing it, even when I ask them not to call me dad.
Now what? Any suggestions? Just accept it and wait until they’re older and understand?