Monthly Archives: October 2016

Hair Removal Update – October 2016

As always, if you or someone you know is thinking about beard or other hair removal, start NOW. I can’t repeat myself and the wisdom of others enough to point out that this takes a very long time. I’ve been … Continue reading

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Week 142 – Public Speaking

Yesterday I stood up from my chair in front of a horseshoe-arrangement of tables in a senior center conference room with 15 strangers, said my name, and then gave a brief overview of my consulting practice before sitting back down … Continue reading

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The Transgender Bill of Rights

The Transgender Bill of Rights Individuals have the right to self-determination of their gender identity. Discrimination on the basis of gender identity is illegal. Trans panic as a legal defense is abolished. Where there is probable cause, violence against trans people … Continue reading

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A Field Guide to Dudes and How to Defend Yourself When Physically Attacked by One

I used to know this dude that could turn on a dime into an aggressive macho dude. ‘C’mon, right here. Right now. Why wait?’ he’d say as he squared his shoulders and snapped his toes to the imaginary line he’d … Continue reading

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Week 141 – On Loneliness

If my life up to this point was working to attain and learn how to use the emotional tools I needed to transition, the next portion of my life is to learn how to not let my sense of otherness … Continue reading

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Week 140 – A Year

While my official transition date was April 1, for me it feels like it was really October 12, because that was the day I no longer needed to pretend I wasn’t going to transition. It became a matter of when, … Continue reading

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Week 139 – Deep Breaths

At least five times, breathe deeply in through the nose, letting the air fill your lungs from the bottom up, pause for a second once full, and then breathe out of your mouth. Do this deliberately, focusing all your attention … Continue reading

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