Monthly Archives: October 2018

You Should Still Transition

Last year I wrote a post called You Should Transition. I believe that even with all the negative shit happening for trans people right now, you should still transition. Why? Because you’re suffering from gender dysphoria and it won’t get … Continue reading

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[CW: violence] Dear Motherfuckers Who Go Out of Their Way to Tell Trans People They Wish We Were Dead

[CW: violence] Dear motherfuckers who go out of their way to tell trans people they wish we were dead, Due to the recent overwhelming number of messages trans people have been receiving to tell us they wish we were dead, … Continue reading

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In Case of an Emergency…

…here’s what I’d want. Everything should be in waterproof bags or containers. Clothing should be wool or synthetic. Check local laws and regulations for potential firearm and blade restrictions. Adjust quantities as necessary depending on the size of your party, … Continue reading

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Fading Away

21 October, 2018 Trump Administration Eyes Defining Transgender Out of Existence 4 November, 2020 I feel the pull of the ethereal plane. I’m already so transparent I’m forgetting to open doors and hunger is but another fading memory, just as … Continue reading

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Waiting Room

My navigation app guides me north from San Jose to Burlingame on the 101. My appointment is at 3 pm and even though traffic is light, I’m concerned I might be late because I dawdled at my hotel. I speed … Continue reading

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Shut up, anxiety

I am up before the sun, before even the furnace awakens from its slumber to heat the house and I have slept maybe four hours. My anxiety, which procrastinated away last night’s hours in a movie, laundry, dishes, updating my … Continue reading

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Adventures in Dating – User Experience

I’ve been thinking about dipping my toe back into the dating pool so I skimmed through a matchmaking site. The user interface is abysmal. I discover a profile that looks interesting. She says: ‘I have a way of immediately putting … Continue reading

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RIP Chris Cornell

The partially tied, empty boots are at the bottom of the glass case. Above them a headless dummy wears jeans below and layers up top; a white t-shirt, a hoodie, a jacket with ripped cuffs. A thick metal chain with … Continue reading

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I Believe

I stare at the spreadsheet and wonder which cells I’ve set to be too optimistic or pessimistic. Underestimating expenses and overestimating income is usually the way, so I dial estimated sales even further back and increase overhead and miscellaneous expenses … Continue reading

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The Work of Being Trans

Being trans is work, no matter where you are in your transition journey. Pre-transition, I spent vast amounts of energy attempting to compartmentalize away being trans and when that became impossible, juggling my inner and outer lives while going to … Continue reading

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