Adventures in Dating – User Experience

I’ve been thinking about dipping my toe back into the dating pool so I skimmed through a matchmaking site. The user interface is abysmal.

I discover a profile that looks interesting.

She says: ‘I have a way of immediately putting people at ease and if we were meeting in person I would greet you with a warm hug…,’ and, ‘I tune into people and I am interested in really seeing and appreciating them for who they really are,’ and, ‘…nobody has it all figured out. We are all just humans doing our very best with what we know at any given moment. This understanding has made me a very non-judgemental and compassionate person.’

Sounds great so far!

I read on:

‘I’m a CIS woman seeking ONLY GAY CIS Women for meaningful connection.’ (Emphasis hers.)


Where’s the check box for, ‘Don’t show me people who don’t want to date trans people,’ because that’s some industrial-level bait-and-switch on that profile and if they don’t want to see me, why would I want to see them?


©Heather Coldstream

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A Seattle-area trans woman seeking a happy spot to stay at along the path of transition.
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