Category Archives: counseling

Pushy Deadnaming

‘What was your name then?’ If you’ve changed your name, this question pops up now and again. I deflected. ‘That isn’t relevant.’ It isn’t in my trans job description to educate every person who asks me an inappropriate question about … Continue reading

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11 questions for evaluating a gender counselor

If you’re in crisis because you think you’re trans, contact The Trever Project at 866-488-7386 (they also have text and online chat support,) or Trans Lifeline in the US at 877-565-8860 or in Canada at 877-330-6366. Besides being a sympathetic … Continue reading

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Week 139 – Deep Breaths

At least five times, breathe deeply in through the nose, letting the air fill your lungs from the bottom up, pause for a second once full, and then breathe out of your mouth. Do this deliberately, focusing all your attention … Continue reading

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August breakdowns

Yesterday afternoon and night I had a breakdown and I’m not certain I’m quiet done yet. You might know the type — crying jags that last for a half hour or more with feelings of helplessness, loneliness, abandonment, and generally … Continue reading

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Hello, my name is…

Heather. 🙂 How I got to Heather has been a multi-year journey. Names have power, and I wanted to be sure of a name before settling on one. I’ve found that as I’ve aged, selecting a name has become harder. … Continue reading

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Saving Transgender Lives

For those that don’t know, the general rate of suicide attempts for transgender people in the United States is around 41%. A recent analysis of the data shows that for some subgroups, the rate is as high as 60%. Let … Continue reading

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Less counseling, more living

I’m thinking about stopping my gender counseling. I know I’m lucky to be able to have access to it in the first place, but I’ve been finding that my session discussions keep circling back to two things: Trans cultural representations … Continue reading

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Unconventional Opinion

Updated October 5, 2011 – Clarified the next-to-last paragraph to match what I really meant to say. In my continuing quest to make sure I’m not about to make a huge, life-altering mistake, last week I sought a second opinion … Continue reading

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Breathing

The counselor I see for general life stuff often asks me if I’m breathing. You see, I have this tendency to stop breathing or breathe shallowly when I’m feeling stressed out. It’s a vicious cycle. Stop breathing due to stress … Continue reading

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Current Events and Thoughts

I’ve been pretty quiet as of late, and much of that has been due to life being very, very busy. Today I’m sick home from work and snatching a few minutes before the cold medicine really kicks in. Yesterday I … Continue reading

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