Category Archives: counseling

Pushy Deadnaming

‘What was your name then?’ If you’ve changed your name, this question pops up now and again. I deflected. ‘That isn’t relevant.’ It isn’t in my trans job description to educate every person who asks me an inappropriate question about … Continue reading

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11 questions for evaluating a gender counselor

If you’re in crisis because you think you’re trans, contact The Trever Project at 866-488-7386 (they also have text and online chat support,) or Trans Lifeline in the US at 877-565-8860 or in Canada at 877-330-6366. Besides being a sympathetic … Continue reading

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Week 139 – Deep Breaths

At least five times, breathe deeply in through the nose, letting the air fill your lungs from the bottom up, pause for a second once full, and then breathe out of your mouth. Do this deliberately, focusing all your attention … Continue reading

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August breakdowns

Yesterday afternoon and night I had a breakdown and I’m not certain I’m quiet done yet. You might know the type — crying jags that last for a half hour or more with feelings of helplessness, loneliness, abandonment, and generally … Continue reading

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Hello, my name is…

Heather. 🙂 How I got to Heather has been a multi-year journey. Names have power, and I wanted to be sure of a name before settling on one. I’ve found that as I’ve aged, selecting a name has become harder. … Continue reading

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Saving Transgender Lives

For those that don’t know, the general rate of suicide attempts for transgender people in the United States is around 41%. A recent analysis of the data shows that for some subgroups, the rate is as high as 60%. Let … Continue reading

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Less counseling, more living

I’m thinking about stopping my gender counseling. I know I’m lucky to be able to have access to it in the first place, but I’ve been finding that my session discussions keep circling back to two things: Trans cultural representations … Continue reading

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