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Posts about divorce

Meditations on relationship regrets

I sorted through a box of old photos the other night. When I was done I had cried and laughed, dumped more than half, and I’ve been trying to shake the melancholy since. There were many pictures from my first … Continue reading

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Changes

Things change. They change all the time. There–did you see it? Something just changed. I’ve changed a lot over the past few years and I’m still changing. Most of my changes were obvious. The clothes I wear. The shape of … Continue reading

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Week 137 – All the Shit

The pee soaks into the carpet, and I cry. I cry tears of frustration because it was so preventable and unnecessary, and I feel like I have failed my child. I feel like this failure, tonight, is just the latest … Continue reading

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Where have the words gone?

Writing, which has so often been a solace for me in trying times, has been so excruciating for me as late that I’ve almost all but abandoned it. I’m hoping it’s just a short slump instead of the years-long muteness … Continue reading

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My divorce finalized

My divorce finalized last week. We negotiated terms directly and other than some early back and forth over asset division and some late nit picks around the parenting plan, it was pretty darn amicable. She signed on as a party … Continue reading

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What happened to Heather?

One of my more vexing habits to friends and family is my propensity for not communicating when I’m busy or overwhelmed and feeling down. “Why didn’t you call/text/email/tweet/post?” is a familiar refrain to my ears. When I’m super-busy, time disappears … Continue reading

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Happy Birthday, Few

Few took our kids to a Mariners game tonight along with her sister, Fesil, and friends to celebrate her birthday. I’m happy the kids are able to spend some time with their mother on her birthday. I’d asked her a … Continue reading

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All the shit

Yesterday was my youngest’s seventh birthday, and he had a great party at a local bowling alley that Few arranged. It was a fun day, except for a couple of things that rankled. Few’s half-brother, (Ferbil) also attended and gave … Continue reading

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Pre-transition Special Edition – HRT Week 111 Review

I’ve changed my final transition date to April 1, 2016! Yesterday I spoke with my HR contact at work, and received unequivocal support after some misfires in contacting her. This moves my date up by five weeks from May 9. … Continue reading

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Coming out letter to my family

I just hit send on the following email to my family that also included a recent photo. We’re a small clan of 19, and I’m estranged from my father’s side of the family, so while I’m not coming out to dozens like … Continue reading

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