Category Archives: family

Which mom is your biological mom?

‘Which mom is your biological mom?’ The question hung in the air from one of my kids’ friends to my kid, who hesitated before answering. We were at a local restaurant to celebrate my kid’s birthday. I was sitting in … Continue reading

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Changes

Things change. They change all the time. There–did you see it? Something just changed. I’ve changed a lot over the past few years and I’m still changing. Most of my changes were obvious. The clothes I wear. The shape of … Continue reading

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Week 178 – Another emergency room visit

In my continuing life saga of ‘What will the universe throw at me next?’, my eldest kid fell out of a tree at a friend’s house onto their back the day after school let out for summer. (Happy spoiler: they … Continue reading

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Week 174 – Mom’s diamond earrings

About a year before told my mom I was going to transition she took a trip with her boyfriend to Tahiti. She bought me a shell carved into a hook hung on a necklace as a gift. At about two … Continue reading

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Week 172 – What day is it?

I think I’m two weeks behind on posts. That’s my life right now. The clock tells me the time and I think, ‘I have plenty of time to get to the next task.’ I finish what I’m doing and, ‘Poof!’ … Continue reading

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Week 170 – Are you the spouse?

“What is your name?” “Heather Coldstream, your honor.” The Commissioner looks confused. “Are you the spouse?” she asks. “Daughter. My name change order is attached as Exhibit A. It matches the name on the will.” “Ah.” She flips to take … Continue reading

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Week 167 – What other people need to update when you change your name

Being trans is rarely easy and in the hustle and bustle of my name change updates last year I overlooked an important type of name change: things that only other people, usually family, can update. This discovery came on the … Continue reading

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