Category Archives: friends

Week 162 – The wedding

Saturday I attended a wedding in Portland for a friend I’ve known for almost twenty-five years. He and his bride, his parents, his kids, and some people who I’d only known online for over a decade but met for the … Continue reading

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A letter to Heather Coldstream, age 14

Dear Heather, Yesterday you had a life-changing insight and I know it scared the shit out of you. You are not losing your mind. Yes, you are a transsexual. In 2017 we mostly call ourselves transgender or trans for short. … Continue reading

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Loss and promise

Like the ocean, my experience of time comes in waves and tides. Some hours, days, weeks, even months have tumbled me in the break, leaving me in fear of being caught in its churning maelstrom as I struggle for gasps … Continue reading

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Week 147 – Queer Girl, Part 1

Her nickname was Wolf, but her real name was Hailey. Hailey’s dad was a former California Highway Patrolman, which I discovered when I picked her up at her house and he opened the door to reveal his service commendations hung … Continue reading

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Week 141 – On Loneliness

If my life up to this point was working to attain and learn how to use the emotional tools I needed to transition, the next portion of my life is to learn how to not let my sense of otherness … Continue reading

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What happened to Heather?

One of my more vexing habits to friends and family is my propensity for not communicating when I’m busy or overwhelmed and feeling down. “Why didn’t you call/text/email/tweet/post?” is a familiar refrain to my ears. When I’m super-busy, time disappears … Continue reading

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Two years of HRT and the poetry of love

On May 18, 2011, I took my first hormones (hormone replacement therapy or HRT). A few weeks in, I started to have panic attacks due to fears of transition and divorce. On December 21, 2011, I stopped taking HRT, mostly … Continue reading

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