Category Archives: gender transition

Meditations on relationship regrets

I sorted through a box of old photos the other night. When I was done I had cried and laughed, dumped more than half, and I’ve been trying to shake the melancholy since. There were many pictures from my first … Continue reading

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Grab Bag

CW: transphobia, surgery I’m five years post-social transition and two years post-surgery, and compared to how things were for me five or ten years ago my life is fairly boring on the gender front. This, it should be noted, is … Continue reading

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Two Years Post-GCS

Content warning: graphic descriptions of vaginoplasty recovery, surgery, biological processes, emotional distress, and sex. There is a wide variance in post-surgical experiences depending on things like the surgeon, surgical technique, general health of the patient, complications, etc. The above are … Continue reading

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8 Months Post-GCS

Content warning: graphic descriptions of vaginoplasty recovery, surgical care, biological processes, emotional distress, and sex. Eight months??? Has it already been eight months since I had surgery? For some reason I have it fixed in my brain I had surgery … Continue reading

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Week 4-7 Post-GCS

So, where am I at after almost eight weeks post-GCS? Sitting down still fucking hurts. Standing around for too long fucking hurts. Stubbing my toe when walking fucking hurts and sometimes just walking fucking hurts. Jogging or running is still … Continue reading

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Two Weeks of Hell

Content warning: graphic descriptions of surgical recovery, surgical care, biological processes, emotional distress There is a wide variance in post-surgical experiences depending on things like the surgeon, surgical technique, general health of the patient, complications, etc. The below is my … Continue reading

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Genital Confirmation Surgery (GCS) Part 2, March 2019

Content warning: graphic descriptions of surgical recovery, surgical care, biological processes, emotional distress, swearing There is a wide variance in post-surgical experiences depending on things like the surgeon, surgical technique, general health of the patient, complications, etc. The below is … Continue reading

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Genital Confirmation Surgery (GCS), March 2019

I meet with my surgeon the afternoon before surgery. My appointment has been re-scheduled twice; once because traffic is preventing me from arriving for an earlier appointment and then later because the doctor is running late. This is the second … Continue reading

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Journeys

It rained last night, but now it is mostly clear, and the moon walks with me to the bus stop in the pre-dawn, dancing between still-dripping Douglas fir boughs to drop moonbeams between shadowy places. Stars add their twinklings to … Continue reading

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All the Feels

In the coming week, I’m having The Surgery and I have many intense feelings about it. Disbelief, fear, anticipation, relief, excitement, acceptance, and gratitude. Disbelief rides atop all. Am I really doing this? Is this really happening? Is this really … Continue reading

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