Category Archives: mental health

Pushy Deadnaming

‘What was your name then?’ If you’ve changed your name, this question pops up now and again. I deflected. ‘That isn’t relevant.’ It isn’t in my trans job description to educate every person who asks me an inappropriate question about … Continue reading

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What I tell myself when I’m having a bad moment

What I tell myself when I’m having a bad moment: Step back from the ledge. This broader world <waves hands> can really suck, but what about your internal world? Look how far you’ve come. You are Heather. You made it; … Continue reading

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A letter to Heather Coldstream, age 14

Dear Heather, Yesterday you had a life-changing insight and I know it scared the shit out of you. You are not losing your mind. Yes, you are a transsexual. In 2017 we mostly call ourselves transgender or trans for short. … Continue reading

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Week 155 – WTF

I can’t even right now. I’m practicing my deep breathing.

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Week 150 – Recharging

I’m back to not knowing what the hell I’m doing and I wonder if this is my default state. Transition provided a goal to focus on with clear steps to follow to make it happen. Even with all the uncertainty … Continue reading

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11 questions for evaluating a gender counselor

If you’re in crisis because you think you’re trans, contact The Trever Project at 866-488-7386 (they also have text and online chat support,) or Trans Lifeline in the US at 877-565-8860 or in Canada at 877-330-6366. Besides being a sympathetic … Continue reading

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Week 145 – Depression

Fuck you, depression. Fuck your torpor. Fuck your timelessness. Fuck your nothingness. Fuck your lack of prioritization. Fuck your inability to get shit done. Fuck your sadness. Fuck your emptiness. Fuck your appetite. Fuck your self-loathing. Fuck your sloth. Fuck … Continue reading

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