Category Archives: opinion

Adventures in Dating – User Experience

I’ve been thinking about dipping my toe back into the dating pool so I skimmed through a matchmaking site. The user interface is abysmal. I discover a profile that looks interesting. She says: ‘I have a way of immediately putting … Continue reading

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We Are Not Men

The patriarchal, misogynistic evil on display by the Republican party in rushing to confirm a credibly accused rapist to the Supreme Court is so foul, it will require decades of work to eradicate and root out of every dark nook … Continue reading

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The ivy is choking you – week 180

English ivy is a noxious weed where I live and I hate it. It’s also a perfect fucking metaphor for gender dysphoria. Left alone to grow, its leaf cover and epiphytic roots will choke trees and understory plants and take … Continue reading

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Meditations on transmisogyny – Week 179

As a trans woman, having my humanity denied, debated, or outright denigrated can be hard to tease apart from baseline cultural misogyny. It might even be a unique offshoot of it. Around the world women struggle to be heard, to … Continue reading

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Week 158 – Empathy for the devils

Cultures, like living organisms, evolve and shift in response to environmental conditions via natural selection and favor traits promoting their continuance. If a culture starts to lose its cohesiveness or shrinks due to changes in its members’ self-identification criteria, these … Continue reading

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11 questions for evaluating a gender counselor

If you’re in crisis because you think you’re trans, contact The Trever Project at 866-488-7386 (they also have text and online chat support,) or Trans Lifeline in the US at 877-565-8860 or in Canada at 877-330-6366. Besides being a sympathetic … Continue reading

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We Will Endure

If I could be with you right now, I would cry with you for a while, and then I would take your hand, look you in the eyes and tell you what I feel in my heart before giving you … Continue reading

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