Category Archives: self-acceptance

Hello, World! Part five.

There are times for patience and and deliberation and there are times for haste and action. In the five years(!) since my last installment, I shifted from decades of deliberation to the action of gender transition. In December 2011, I … Continue reading

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Week 152 – Lather, rinse, repeat

Nine months post full-time, my days have settled into familiar repetition. This period of time is savory to me after threading the variable treacle needle of transition so many of us pass through. There are the days I do not … Continue reading

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Week 143 – Like Diamonds

It’s impossible to know what you can bear until you bear what you can until you break. The crushing weight of being trans broke me long ago and my broken bones compressed under the weight into diamond. This feature of … Continue reading

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Week 139 – Deep Breaths

At least five times, breathe deeply in through the nose, letting the air fill your lungs from the bottom up, pause for a second once full, and then breathe out of your mouth. Do this deliberately, focusing all your attention … Continue reading

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You should start transition.

If there is the slightest possibility you think you are a trans woman, you should start transition. There is no ‘trans enough’ standard you have to meet to transition. There is no ‘standard transition’ you need to follow. There is … Continue reading

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I have my own beauty

Some days I’m harder on myself than others. The really hard ones are when I’ve had to grow my whiskers out for electrolysis and I’m feeling fat. On those days, I feel like I’m the ugliest woman in the world … Continue reading

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The Weight of Gender Dysphoria and Employment

Stop me if you’ve heard this before. Someone transitions, and within a year they’ve changed jobs. Why is this the case? Why do so many people switch jobs after transition? As I’ve been struggling in my own career recently, considering … Continue reading

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