Category Archives: work

I Believe

I stare at the spreadsheet and wonder which cells I’ve set to be too optimistic or pessimistic. Underestimating expenses and overestimating income is usually the way, so I dial estimated sales even further back and increase overhead and miscellaneous expenses … Continue reading

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A letter to Heather Coldstream, age 14

Dear Heather, Yesterday you had a life-changing insight and I know it scared the shit out of you. You are not losing your mind. Yes, you are a transsexual. In 2017 we mostly call ourselves transgender or trans for short. … Continue reading

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Uncertain: Poetry About Gender Transition, now available for sale

I’ve just self-published to Kindle a collection of 48 poems, titled Uncertain: Poems About Gender Transition and I’d really appreciate it if you bought a copy and wrote a review or suggest it to a friend. 🙂 My life changes … Continue reading

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Week 142 – Public Speaking

Yesterday I stood up from my chair in front of a horseshoe-arrangement of tables in a senior center conference room with 15 strangers, said my name, and then gave a brief overview of my consulting practice before sitting back down … Continue reading

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Week 137 – All the Shit

The pee soaks into the carpet, and I cry. I cry tears of frustration because it was so preventable and unnecessary, and I feel like I have failed my child. I feel like this failure, tonight, is just the latest … Continue reading

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The Weight of Gender Dysphoria and Employment

Stop me if you’ve heard this before. Someone transitions, and within a year they’ve changed jobs. Why is this the case? Why do so many people switch jobs after transition? As I’ve been struggling in my own career recently, considering … Continue reading

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What happened to Heather?

One of my more vexing habits to friends and family is my propensity for not communicating when I’m busy or overwhelmed and feeling down. “Why didn’t you call/text/email/tweet/post?” is a familiar refrain to my ears. When I’m super-busy, time disappears … Continue reading

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Meditations on Transition

Transition is life. You can’t separate it from the other bits. When I first encountered the concept of transition in the mid-1990’s, it looked like a sharp demarcation between one life and the other. One day you were a guy, … Continue reading

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Coming out letter for work

This is the second-to-last coming out letter I’ll send; the last will be a blog post from my guy blog that will flow to Facebook, LinkedIn, and my guy Twitter accounts. I’m happy with this version. I think it’s brief, … Continue reading

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Pre-transition Special Edition – HRT Week 111 Review

I’ve changed my final transition date to April 1, 2016! Yesterday I spoke with my HR contact at work, and received unequivocal support after some misfires in contacting her. This moves my date up by five weeks from May 9. … Continue reading

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