Tag Archives: coming out

The aperture of happiness

There was no light for parts of my gender journey. Darkness closed in around me as I struggled to figure out what to do. I felt my way along in the dark, bruising my shins and falling down hard a … Continue reading

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The ivy is choking you – week 180

English ivy is a noxious weed where I live and I hate it. It’s also a perfect fucking metaphor for gender dysphoria. Left alone to grow, its leaf cover and epiphytic roots will choke trees and understory plants and take … Continue reading

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Week 167 – What other people need to update when you change your name

Being trans is rarely easy and in the hustle and bustle of my name change updates last year I overlooked an important type of name change: things that only other people, usually family, can update. This discovery came on the … Continue reading

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A letter to Heather Coldstream, age 14

Dear Heather, Yesterday you had a life-changing insight and I know it scared the shit out of you. You are not losing your mind. Yes, you are a transsexual. In 2017 we mostly call ourselves transgender or trans for short. … Continue reading

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Hello, World! Part five.

There are times for patience and and deliberation and there are times for haste and action. In the five years(!) since my last installment, I shifted from decades of deliberation to the action of gender transition. In December 2011, I … Continue reading

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Meditations on Transition

Transition is life. You can’t separate it from the other bits. When I first encountered the concept of transition in the mid-1990’s, it looked like a sharp demarcation between one life and the other. One day you were a guy, … Continue reading

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Coming out letter for work

This is the second-to-last coming out letter I’ll send; the last will be a blog post from my guy blog that will flow to Facebook, LinkedIn, and my guy Twitter accounts. I’m happy with this version. I think it’s brief, … Continue reading

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