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Week 170 – Are you the spouse?

“What is your name?” “Heather Coldstream, your honor.” The Commissioner looks confused. “Are you the spouse?” she asks. “Daughter. My name change order is attached as Exhibit A. It matches the name on the will.” “Ah.” She flips to take … Continue reading

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Week 166 – Misgendered to the end

The last person my mom ever misgendered me to was the hospital security guard who came to notarize a durable power of medical attorney listing me as the responsible party. As usual, her misgendering was unintentional. I didn’t correct her … Continue reading

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Week 164 – ‘my sister’

‘I’m here with my sister now, so I gotta go soon.’ I motioned to my brother for the car keys and went and sat in the car while he finished his call. We had just finished lunch while discussing my … Continue reading

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A visit with my mom

My mom’s had a cough for a while and it’s been a while since I’ve seen her, so I took her out to lunch. As part of catching her up on my news, I told her I had updated my … Continue reading

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Week 156 – January 2017

It’s been a rough couple of weeks. Everything I’ve been trying to write as of late has been coming out too clever by half, so this is a back-to-basics update. January 24th my youngest kid came down with the flu, … Continue reading

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Week 153 – Five years later…

Five years ago, my ex-father-in-law sent me this letter: It pissed me off. I wrote a response, but never sent it. It was rambling and made me do a lot of work, so I sat on it. Flash forward to … Continue reading

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Week 146 – My Happy Childhood

[Content warning: physical and verbal abuse] Good It’s hard to remember the really good When good was the absence of bad And really bad taught you things you can’t forget – Heather Coldstream Earlier this year a friend pointed out … Continue reading

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