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Week 167 – What other people need to update when you change your name

Being trans is rarely easy and in the hustle and bustle of my name change updates last year I overlooked an important type of name change: things that only other people, usually family, can update. This discovery came on the … Continue reading

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Week 134 – Endurance Required

“We can fax or mail you the form and then you can fax it back.” The woman on the other end of the phone didn’t get it. I had heard this same line when I called the service center to … Continue reading

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Week 132 – My day in court

“We have a couple of name changes before we get started with the other cases. They’re quick.” The judge looked down at her papers. “[Full Legal Deadname]?” She looked expectantly around the small courtroom filled with about twenty people. Talking … Continue reading

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Week 131 – ‘I just need to see your ID…’

Paperwork is my bane. I find it tedious and grim. As I yet again enter the same information on yet another form that has yet different boxes in yet different orders, it makes me painfully conscious that a noticeable sliver … Continue reading

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And you are…?

Friday afternoon, while touring the elementary school my eldest will start attending Monday: ‘And you’re…Lucy?’ The school counselor looks at me tentatively, unsure of her offering. I smile at her, almost laughing, ‘No, Heather – but I still go by … Continue reading

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Mulling over the way forward

This has been a good news/bad news week. The good news is that I’ve had two separate follow-up interviews for different companies, and now I’m waiting to hear back if either one of them wants to make me an offer. … Continue reading

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Dad, dad, dad!

Ny name is Heather. I’m living my life more and more as the woman I’ve always wanted to be. I’m just me when I’m out and about either by myself or with my kids. But when I’m with my kids, … Continue reading

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