Tag Archives: transition

What I tell myself when I’m having a bad moment

What I tell myself when I’m having a bad moment: Step back from the ledge. This broader world <waves hands> can really suck, but what about your internal world? Look how far you’ve come. You are Heather. You made it; … Continue reading

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Which mom is your biological mom?

‘Which mom is your biological mom?’ The question hung in the air from one of my kids’ friends to my kid, who hesitated before answering. We were at a local restaurant to celebrate my kid’s birthday. I was sitting in … Continue reading

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April Fools’

1 April again. My second transition anniversary passed less eventfully than the first. I mowed the lawn with the push mower and cut down a dying spruce and dead rhododendron. The day before I cut down two dead fir trees, … Continue reading

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Just keep smiling

I have these days, a year and a half after transition, where I feel like a fraud. — ‘Do you have a towel I can borrow?’ ‘Of course; I already put one in the bag for you.’ ‘Thank you!’ My … Continue reading

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OMG! (Deadname)!

One great thing about my new girlfriend is meeting her friends and expanding my social circle. My girlfriend’s best friend (GBF) lives in the Columbia City area of Seattle and we went down Friday night so I could meet GBF … Continue reading

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The shifting sands of dysphoria

My experience with gender dysphoria has changed over the years. It first expressed itself in childhood as a diffuse desire to be like my grandmother and mother with regards to social roles. As puberty hit, it changed to an intense … Continue reading

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Jumper cables

I get in the car, turn the key, and nothing happens. I’d only gone into the grocery store for maybe thirty minutes after a 75-mile drive without a stop. I’ve never had trouble with my car starting before, so I … Continue reading

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